Put your relationship problems behind you and get back to creating a life you love.
Discover exactly how to confidently show up for yourself, break free from conflict, stress and tension...
...so that you can either take the relationship to where you want it to be, or move forward with clarity and no regrets.
Relationships By Design isn’t just a program; it’s a life-changing journey that provides you with personalized direction, compassionate guidance, and unwavering support to build the relationship—and future—you truly deserve.
This journey is ABOUT YOU. Your life, your happiness, your future.
Whether you are contemplating a separation or divorce, you simply know something needs to change, or you have struggled with a series of difficult relationships this transformative path will shift your perspective, release resentment and past hurts, and empower you to show up fully—so that you can create the future that you want.Â
You Really Do Teach People How to Treat You.Â
Begin today and gain the strategies, tools and insights so that you know how to create a relationship where you finally feel heard, valued and understood.Â
Your happiness isn't optional. Relationships By Design shows you how to get it back. Starting now.Â
If You’re Done With Feeling:
- Stressed out
- Unimportant or at the bottom of everyone's priority list
- Depleted and overwhelmed
- Frustrated that nothing you try seems to make things better
- Like the problems in your relationship never get fully resolved
- As though you have somehow lost yourself
- Uncertain about your future...
THEN IT'S TIME to Discover How to Create The Relationship and the Life You have always wanted.
...and become the happiest woman you know!
Wouldn't it be nice if life felt easy and happy again?
- You wake up in the morning feeling at peace and excited for the day ahead.
- You aren't tense when you talk to your partner about ordinary life stuff. You aren't worried about a topic randomly spiralling into an argument out of nowhere.Â
- Your vacations and date nights are filled with time for connection, laughter and closeness.Â
- You feel heard, understood, safe and supported.Â
- You know how to set boundaries and stick to them. You feel cherished by your partner.Â
- You sleep soundly at night with no regrets or worries about the future.Â
- Your energy and attention goes to creating a life you love, not trying to survive the life you are living.Â
...But easy and happy days are not the norm for you right now, are they?
Which of These Describe Your Relationship?
I feel like I'm a part of an endless cycle of conflict with nothing ever being truly resolved. Unless I just "let it go" over and over again, I end up in constant turmoil. It's not worth it.
I'm sick of the fighting.
I don't feel heard, understood or appreciated. It feels like I've tried everything to get my partner to recognize that things need to change, but they never do.
I don't feel important.
We are completely disconnected. He does his thing. I do mine. Our main conversations are around managing life logistics. Kids, house, etc.
I feel alone.
If I'm honest, I might have already called it quits if it wasn't for the nightmare of untangling the life we've built together. But the idea of it is terrifying for so many reasons.
I feel defeated.Â
Right now it feels like all of my options suck. If I stay and things don't change, am I just wasting my whole life? If I leave will I regret it? Will things be worse?
And what about my kids...?
I feel stuck.
If any of that resonates with you...
There's good news and bad news:
The Good News first: It is possible to completely transform unhealthy relationship patterns so that you are no longer feeling hopeless, defeated, unappreciated and stressed out. You will watch the changes occur and your only regret will be that you wish you learned all this sooner...
And Now The Bad News: If you could change this on your own, you already would have. And if nothing changes, well... nothing changes.
What if I told you the solutions are right in front of you?
If you have been living this way, chances are you are wondering how long you can keep it up...
Hi, I'm Shari Kubinec...
and I know what it feels like to be frustrated and confused about why you can't seem to get your partner to see you, listen to you or treat you like you deserve to be treated.Â
I was there. And IÂ was sick of feeling like no matter how hard I tried to be a good partner and to communicate clearly and make my partner understand, nothing seemed to work.Â
So I set out to learn how women who have great relationships show up differently - because I knew that how I showed up was the only thing I could truly control.
What I found out was that it all comes down to the hidden belief systems that you are operating based on. These may have come from your childhood or even past relationships. They affect your mindset, your emotions and the energy you bring to your life.

And when I learned how to change all that EVERYTHING CHANGED!
You created your relationship based on default programming
Your default approach means you have been reacting to what you get INSTEAD OF CREATING WHAT YOU WANT. Â
And what you didn't realize all along is...
If you want to have the relationship and the life of your dreams, the one that has other women asking you what your secret is, all it takes it NEW PROGRAMMING that has you stepping into the version of you who is treated well, cherished and adored by your partner otherwise you will keep recreating new versions of the same problems in this or future relationships.Â
How your partner shows up for you is based on how you show up for you. When you change how you show up for yourself, when you step into a thriving state of being, you WILL see a shift in your relationship.
A big one.
I know, because I am living proof that this approach works and so are the hundreds of women who I have worked with.Â
Listen to Susan’s story and what happened in her relationship when she joined RBD…
"My husband is back to showing me respect and I finally feel good about where things are headed.Â
I was stuck in frustration and feeling defeated in my 10 year marriage.Â
Working with Shari helped me realize that changing how I show up REALLY does make a big difference in how my partner treats me.Â
I’ve set better boundaries within my relationship. Small changes really do have big impacts, and I’ve rediscovered my joy and self-worth in ways I didn’t think were possible.
Shari's program helped me see how much control you really do have over your situation. She’s personable, a great listener, and has a fantastic sense of humor that makes the journey feel approachable and non-judgmental.
If you’re looking to feel happy and confident again, don't hesitate. It is worth every penny."Â
Dianne G,
Alberta, Canada
Thriving, happy women know how to create a life they want.
And they accept nothing less.
They Don't Stay Stuck in old Patterns that don't Serve them. They question where the Pattern came from. Then they do the work to break the pattern and move on with elevating their life.Â
They take Radical Responsibility for their own Happiness. They know they can change their relationship patterns even if their partner isn't on board. In fact...
Can I tell you a secret?
You may be worried that your partner won't join you on the journey you are about to embark on. Guess what?
That is EXACTLY why it is going to be a success!
If you have been to couples therapy, you already know your partner's participation does not help. #hardtruth. The reason so few couples report positive progress with traditional therapy is that the hurtful and toxic patterns you are trying to break make it more difficult to uncover the real reasons behind the problems.Â
And without that, how do you even know what it is that you are trying to change?Â
Many women are trying to change the symptoms of the problems without getting to the root cause.Â
Truth Bomb: You Cannot "Act" Your Way to a Happy Relationship
But that’s EXACTLY what most women who are struggling in their relationship are trying to do.
Does this sound familiar?Â
...You spend hours and even thousands of dollars in therapy only to feel like you are back at square one as soon as someone is triggered or a conflict arises.Â
...You set your mind to "just let things go" and end up feeling resentful and frustrated as you ruminate and have conversations in your head. It feels like there is no point to bringing stuff up because it never seems to make any difference.Â
...You have begged your partner to work on himself, but even if things get better for a short time, it always reverts back to the same problems.
...You don't trust your partner anymore. Perhaps because of a serious betrayal. Or maybe it's a series of smaller betrayals of the heart. But either way, I'm sure you would agree there is no way to "act" your way into trust again.Â
Unhealthy relationships come down to one thing, and one thing only...

...Your default relationship patterns entangled with your partner's relationship patterns.
And since your unique patterns can only exist if you both participate in them, when you take Radical Responsibility for how you show up for yourself...
...your patterns change.
And the more your patterns change, the more you release default programming and old belief systems that are keeping you stuck, the more the patterns between you and your partner change as well.Â
This is how you become a magnet for being treated WELL.
And at the end of the day, whether you decide to stay in this relationship or release it and move on, if you don't have your own patterns figured out, there is a high likelihood that you will experience similar problems in the future.
But Figuring Things Out on Your Own is Hasn't Worked So Far.
It should seem like a pretty
straightforward solution, right?
Figure out the belief systems that have caused you to show up the way you do so you can show up differently and get different results. Easy peasy, right?
Unfortunately...no.
Because it is one thing to realize you have default programming that guides your behaviour, it is another thing to:
Uncover your own unique hidden beliefs that have lead you to unhealthy relationship patterns. You don't know what you don't know. They are your blind spots!
But with help, they can be uncovered. And then...
Once you realize a false lesson and belief system that has been guiding you in the wrong direction, you learn how to release the belief and replacing it with new, empowering beliefs is where the true transformation occurs...
This is when you will see yourself step into the Thriving State where you feel confident, calm and happier.
And I will help you make that transformation.
I waited almost 60 years to feel this good and it is just the beginning!
I don’t feel helpless anymore. I deserve joy. Calls hit on topics that I didn’t even know that I needed to hear. I’m excited for the journey that I’m on and I know that this will be here for me as I stumble and fall and continue to pick myself up and move forward for myself.Â
The sooner you start, the faster you can get to the life that's waiting for you.
There’s very few people that I trust and tell my truth to, and I honestly feel like Shari is an angel sent from heaven to help me.
Lavonne Fountain
Oregon, USA.
The good news is that you can uncover your default relationship programming before it derails you any further... You just need a different approach and more support.
Introducing
Relationships BY DESIGN Isn’t a “Relationship Course" or a "Therapy" Like Others You May Have Taken or Looked at.
...IT’S A COMPLETE TRANSFORMATIONAL PROCESS that will change you...
from a stressed out, overwhelmed, unappreciated woman...
...To the Happy, Thriving Woman You, and the People You Love, Deserve!
Relationships By Design is a comprehensive program that teaches transformational relationship strategies to women who want to elevate their life to the next level.Â
Relationships by Design uses a proven approach that transforms your mindset, shifts your energy and heals your nervous system.
- Whether you're already separated after 30 years of marriage and not sure what comes next, or
- Struggling with unhealthy conflict patterns, or
- Feeling disconnected and just not "in love" anymore, or
- Realizing you have lost yourself in the relationship...
Relationships By Design will empower you, teach you how to show up differently for yourself and reveal the secrets to creating a relationship and a life that you are happy to wake up to.Â
You'll understand exactly how you got here so that you can shift your energy and truly address the root causes and transform your life.Â
It is a step by step proven system to release what has been holding you back so you can realize your full potential for love, happiness and the support you deserve.Â
It's Time.
You Are Ready.
We are in the best place we have been in over 10 years!
I was seriously considering leaving the marriage as trying to talk about our problems always ended in an argument. Things might change for a week or so and quickly return to how they were or worse. We were both very unhappy.
It has been an 18 month journey but we are in the best place we have been in over 10 years.Â
Lisa Jones
Ontario, CA.
You Just Commit to You...
And I'll Do The Rest.
It's that simple!
Relationships By Design is created specifically to move you forward in transforming your relationship and your life.Â
You have been constructing your relationship all along, you have just been using the wrong tools.
Until Now.
See what's waiting for you inside
once you become a member…
8 Sets of Relationship-Transforming Lessons:
But as you have likely realized by now,
Its about a lot more than your Relationship.
Including:
Finally Understand How you Got Here
So you can make sure you are never here again!
This will be the most life-changing insight you've ever had.
When you start to understand how you have been unintentionally contributing to creating the issues in your relationship, you step into your power to shift things. Your relationship is a reflection of you in more ways than you realize. After this first break-through, you will know that your future already looks different.
Break-Up With The Past
Once you know how you have been inadvertently creating what you don't want, it's time to discover how to move forward in a new way.Â
And like everything in Relationships By Design, this goes far beyond what to say or do. This is about stepping into a new version of you, tuning into your own guidance system, and knowing how to show up for yourself in a whole new way.Â
Your emotions are designed to lead you in a certain direction, but when your emotions are rooted in past hurts, resentments and even traumas (both big and small) you end up recreating and attracting new versions of past problems over and over again.Â
When you break-up with your problems you make the space to create the relationship and the future you WANT.
Redesign Your Relationship Identity
Who are you in your relationship?
The quickest way to create a new relationship is to become the woman who accepts nothing less.Â
In this set of lessons you learn how to design the identity of the woman you want to be...
- What does she expect from her partner?
-Â How does she show up in conflict?
- What does abundance look like in her life?Â
- What standards does she hold and expect for herself?Â
...and so much more.
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You're life is a reflection of what you allow it to be. In Relationships By Design, you are not only going to raise your standards, you are going to step into BEING the woman with the energy that attracts the love, fun, and abundance that you never thought possible.
Adopt the
Happiest Relationship Patterns
If the patterns in your relationship have included conflict, contempt, resentment, walking on eggshells or betrayal, this set of lessons will change your life. Changing unhealthy or even toxic patterns is imperative if you want to create a happier, more peaceful home for yourself and your family.
These are often generational issues. But they end here.
When you know what the happiest relationship patterns look like, you get very clear any time the pattern you are engaging in doesn't match what you want.
Through techniques designed to rewire your brain and reprogram your mind, you will find yourself stepping into a version of you who you can feel proud of.
Imagine the precious time and energy you will save when you no longer get sucked into unhealthy conflict?
You’ll be blown away by the response you get when you learn to seamlessly integrate these new patterns into your home life.
Release Resentment
To make space for more ease, love and abundance...
This is where things get real...
If you want to change your future, whether you stay in this relationship or you create a new one, you have to let go of the past.
The past that has kept you stuck, hurt, angry and may even be making you sick.
Unfortunately this is a major sticking point for a lot of women so we have dedicated an entire module to freeing you from its grip.
When you release resentment you make space for:Â
- More ease
- More love, connection and joy
- More abundance (yes! resentment blocks abundance)Â Â
In this powerful module, you’ll learn practical and transformation ways to help you let go of what has been holding you back so you can move forward lighter, freer, and filled with renewed optimism for your future.
Master the Secret Language
of Masculine and Feminine Energy
And how to make it work for you and you partner
This is, by far the Module that clients are the most intrigued by.Â
You may have an idea about what toxic masculine looks like, but most women do NOT understand healthy masculine and healthy feminine energies and how to embrace both sides of yourself and your partner to strengthen your relationship.Â
In fact, not understanding this is often a huge part of what is causing the conflict and disconnect in your relationship.
If anything feels like a magic pill, it is this one.
Attract
Abundance
and let it continue to flow!
We can't talk about thriving without talking about money, abundance and living a truly prosperous life (with or without a partner)!
Many women who are struggling with their relationship feel unprepared financially. You might be worried about whether or not you can make it on your own. Or maybe you aren't even considering leaving, but money has been a sticky point in your relationship.
If you want to shift into the new, THRIVING version you are taking into your future, this module will show you exactly how to do that while you attract abundance, understand the energy that surrounds prosperity, and learn how to allow increasing amounts of money to flow to you to spend, save, enjoy and give. Â
If money is an issue in your life, then understanding how your energy is creates your financial reality will be a game-changer for you. This module contains both spiritual as well as very practical strategies for getting this area of your life to EXACTLY where you want it to be.
"These classes changed me in all the best ways.Â
Ultimately, my relationship ended, and that was a good thing. Thanks to what I learned from Shari, I felt confident and secure moving forward.
My decision making has improved and it has led to really positive changes in my confidence.Â
If you want to make sure you don't repeat old patterns, you have nothing to lose. You’ll benefit when it comes to your relationship but also when it comes to money. It was huge for me.Â
Best investment I ever made."Â
Becca Hanley, Texas, USA
Never Fail

Pattern Interupters
The MODULE YOU WILL RETURN TO TIME AND TIME AGAIN to ensure you keep your forward momentum strong. Â
Many of the patterns you have practice in your life since childhood run deep. This module will serve as a set of tools for you to choose from to remain calm, stay motivated and inspired, and step into a powerful state of being whenever you find yourself returning to old habits.
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Figure out your Relationship and Become the Thriving, Confident Woman You Deserve To Be!
Relationships By Design gives you everything you need to completely transform your relationship and your life. You’ll be ready to move forward with total confidence.Â
RBD isn’t just videos & exercises…
I created Relationships By Design to be the most transformative, easiest way for you to go from stressed out, defeated and overwhelmed to thriving, confident and happy with the life you wake up to everyday.
But I also created it to be a supportive place that helps you stay accountable to your goals and your progress. So that’s why Relationships By Design also includes 2 live group coaching calls with me each month.Â
Got a question? Doubts? Uncertainties?
We have a ton of laughs, it gets real and you have all your questions answered.Â
I’VE GOT YOU COVERED.
The RBD Members-Only Community
Real Women in a
Real & Supportive Community
If you're like me, then you know that figuring out your relationship can be lonely... you may have already discovered that talking to your friends and family can be a double-edged sword. Sometimes you don't want to share too much for fear that they will turn against your partner. And other times you might sense that their opinion is biased. It is easy to wonder what the right decision is and how much stock to put into the advice from those closest to you.Â
That never happens again once you join our Relationships by Design Private Community.
You surround yourself with a caring, support network. One that answers your questions, picks you up when you’re down, and gives you the honest and high-vibe advice you need to keep your positive momentum going.
And you can participate as much or as little as you want, depending on your level of comfort.Â
If you’re willing  to make the commitment to yourself and your happiness, but all of this sounds too good to be true, I promise you RBD will be your surest path to success!
IN FACT, I’LL EVEN
GUARANTEE IT!
That's right.Â
If you make the commitment to yourself and invest in RBD, and after two weeks decide it's just not for you, simply contact my team and we'll happily give you a full refund.Â
CLICK HERE TO JOIN RELATIONSHIPS BY DESIGNOK, HOW MUCH IS MY INVESTMENT?
Relationships By Design may not be cheap, but it shows you how to get the results you desire in your relationship and when it comes to creating the prosperity and abundance you are after. It’s not a $18-a-month app or a $320 one-and-done therapy session.
It’s a small investment in yourself that pays huge dividends in your future and your family's future.
One that will pay you back for the rest of your life. Relationships By Design teaches you how to create the life you want. You will find your confidence and move forward knowing you are headed in the right direction.
It’s a transformation that frees you from feeling powerless and emotionally exhausted, stressed out and struggling. And lets you become great a creating the relationship you really want to be in.
You will truly change how you teach people how to treat you.
It's EXACTLY what I teach and share in my $10,500/3 month VIP Package, but for a fraction of the cost for you.
And when you weigh all that against the investment and what it will do for you and your future, then it's an easy choice.
And because I'm committed to making Relationships By Design as accessible as possible to women who are ready to make the changes they can to shift the way they approach relationships and change the generational patterns for their children...
Right now you can get started in Relationships by Design with
6 installments of just $397!
That's right! You can see a huge shift in your relationship patterns and begin creating the future you want for less than the cost of about 4 therapy sessions!Â
Join Relationships By DesignÂ
for just $397 Today!
Plus, you have my personal guarantee.Â
My husband and I are back on track and I am feeling the love again!
With Shari, I learned so much about working on myself and taking care of me.Â
I didn't think I was going to like the group calls, but they turned out to be beneficial as you learn you are not alone out there, there is others going through similar or way worse issues. Â
It was a process, but my husband and I are back on track and I am feeling the love again.
Shari is easy-going, loving and understanding.Â
Just do this. You won't regret it!Â
Tamara Bridal
British Columbia, Ca.
So, Let’s Recap!
When you join Relationships By Design you get a FULL YEAR of access to the transformational lessons and tools that transform you from stressed out, living with tension, conflict and unhappiness in your Relationship into the Confident, Clear, Thriving Woman who knows her worth and is treated with love and respect by her partner (Value: $3,800).
+Plus you get the ENTIRE Relationships Redone Bonus Package - 8 ADDITIONAL Sets of Life Changing Lessons AND PROCESSES to quick start your transformation NOW!
(Value: $3400)
+Twice-monthly LIVE Relationship Breakthrough All Access Group Coaching Sessions with Shari for an entire YEAR to answer your questions, clear up doubts, keep us connected, and and ensure you never lose momentum.

(Value: $2,450)
+Access to Our RBD Team For More Support & Accountability!
+Bonus: Rewired for Miracles to reset and rewire your brain for happy more loving relationships.Â
(Value: $697)
THAT MAKES EVERYTHING YOU GET WORTH WELL OVER $8500!
Still wondering if Relationships By Design is right for you?
Hear what RBDer, Tanya has to say…
And if You Are Really Serious About Figuring Out Your Relationship Now It’s Time for You to Make One of Two Choices...
The first choice is to choose to do nothing. And as you already know, if you choose nothing... then nothing changes.
BUT, if you want to walk into the next few months without the stress, conflict and overwhelm that you've been living with, then your choice is obvious: join me inside Relationship By Design and start your transformation to knowing exactly how to show up for yourself in relationships so that you become the thriving, happy, confident woman you know you want to be.
Simply click the button below and my team & I will be waiting for you inside!
And if you're thinking...
“It all sounds great, but I just don’t have the money, energy, or time right now”
…remember:Â
Your circumstances won't get better if you let your current results dictate your actions. In fact, things will very likely get worse.
That is what the happiest women understand that change requires a different approach.
And that is what we'll do inside of Relationships By Design.Â
Here’s the Truth:
You have to ask yourself this one vital question that will determine whether your relationship patterns are going to change or not:
“Am I going to take Radical Responsibility for my own life?”
Am I willing to accept responsibility for where I'm at and for where I am going?
You know that you’re not where you want to be today, and you now recognize that you have a chance to change it.Â
But Choose Quickly!
Because this registration period won’t be open forever…
Membership in Relationships By Design is only open until May 2, 2025! After that it’ll be quite some time until you have a chance to join again.
You’ll miss out on the chance to transform yourself, your relationship and your life.
You CAN do it. With the knowledge, tools, and support in RBD you can transform how you show up for yourself, how you show up in your relationship and you can move forward with zero regrets. Â
So don’t waste another day, month or year wishing things could be different in your home.
Enroll in Relationships By Design Today
6 monthly payments of $397
(JUST $397 TODAY)
IT'S FINALLY YOUR TURN...
Ready to Step into the thriving, Abundant, confident woman who knows how to create a relationship she loves?
INVESTMENT:
"The modules, the calls, the support... it was exactly what I needed.Â
I went from seriously considering a divorce to being more in love with my husband than ever.
This program saved my family."
Darcie, NC, USA.
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