Figure out your relationship and break the patterns that are leaving you feeling unappreciated and stressed out so that you either create the change you need to see, or move forward with confidence and no regrets.
Relationships By Design is the game changing relationship program and community that gives you the direction, guidance and support to create the future you truly want.
Whether you are contemplating a separation or divorce, or you simply know something needs to change, Shari Kubinec takes you on an 8 week journey that will shift your perspective, release stress and resentment, and give you a whole new approach for how you show up for yourself and move forward with your life.
Your happiness matters. Relationships By Design shows you how to get it back.
If You’re Done With Feeling:
- Stressed out
- Unimportant or at the bottom of everyone's priority list
- Depleted and overwhelmed
- Frustrated that nothing you try seems to make things better
- Like the problems in your relationship never get fully resolved
- As though you have somehow lost yourself
- Uncertain about your future...
THEN IT'S TIME to Discover How to Create The Relationship and the Life You have always wanted.
...and become the happiest woman you know!
Wouldn't it be nice if life felt easy and happy again?
- You wake up in the morning feeling at peace and excited for the day ahead.
- You aren't tense when you talk to your partner about ordinary life stuff. You aren't worried about a topic randomly spiralling into an argument out of nowhere.Â
- Your vacations and date nights are filled with time for connection, laughter and closeness.Â
- You feel heard, understood, safe and supported.Â
- You know how to set boundaries and stick to them. You feel cherished by your partner.Â
- You sleep soundly at night with no regrets or worries about the future.Â
- Your energy and attention goes to creating a life you love, not trying to survive the life you are living.Â
...But easy and happy days are not the norm for you right now, are they?
Which of These Describe Your Relationship?
I feel like I'm a part of an endless cycle of conflict with nothing ever being truly resolved. Unless I just "let it go" over and over again, I end up in constant turmoil. It's not worth it.
I feel overwhelmed.
I don't feel heard, understood or appreciated. It feels like I've tried everything to get my partner to recognize that things need to change, but they never do.
I don't feel important.
We are completely disconnected. He does his thing. I do mine. Our main conversations are around managing life logistics. Kids, house, etc.
I feel alone.
If I'm honest, I might have already called it quits if it wasn't for the nightmare of untangling the life we've built together. But the idea of it is terrifying for so many reasons.
I feel defeated.Â
Right now it feels like all of my options suck. If I stay and things don't change, am I just wasting my whole life? If I leave will I regret it? Will things be worse?
And what about my kids...?
I feel stuck.
If any of that resonates with you...
There's good news and bad news:
The Good News first: It is possible to completely transform unhealthy relationship patterns so that you are no longer feeling hopeless, defeated, unappreciated and stressed out. You will watch the changes occur and your only regret will be that you wish you learned all this sooner...
And Now The Bad News: If you could change this on your own, you already would have. And if nothing changes, well... nothing changes.
What if I told you the solutions are right in front of you?
If you have been living this way, chances are you are wondering how long you can keep it up...
Hi, I'm Shari Kubinec...
and I know what it feels like to be frustrated and confused about why you can't seem to get your partner to see you, listen to you or treat you like you deserve to be treated.Â
I was there. And IÂ was sick of feeling like no matter how hard I tried to be a good partner and to communicate clearly and make my partner understand, nothing seemed to work.Â
So I set out to learn how women who have great relationships show up differently - because I knew that how I showed up was the only thing I could truly control.
What I found out was that it all comes down to the hidden belief systems that you are operating based on. These may have come from your childhood or even past relationships. They affect your mindset, your emotions and the energy you bring to your life.

And when I learned how to change all that EVERYTHING CHANGED!
You created your relationship based on default programming
Your default approach means you have been reacting to what you get INSTEAD OF CREATING WHAT YOU WANT. Â
And what you didn't realize all along is...
If you want to have the relationship and the life of your dreams, the one that has other women asking your what your secret is, all it takes it NEW PROGRAMMING that has you stepping into the version of you who is treated well, cherished and adored by your partner otherwise you will keep recreating new versions of the same problems in this or future relationships.Â
How your partner shows up for you is based on how you show up for you. When you change how you show up for yourself, when you step into a thriving state of being, you WILL see a shift in your relationship.
A big one.
I know, because I am living proof that this approach works and so are the hundreds of women who I have worked with.Â
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"My husband is back to showing me respect and I finally feel good about where things are headed.Â
I was stuck in frustration and feeling defeated in my 10 year marriage.Â
Working with Shari helped me realize that changing how I show up REALLY does make a big difference in how my partner treats me.Â
I’ve set better boundaries within my relationship. Small changes really do have big impacts, and I’ve rediscovered my joy and self-worth in ways I didn’t think were possible.
Shari's program helped me see how much control you really do have over your situation. She’s personable, a great listener, and has a fantastic sense of humor that makes the journey feel approachable and non-judgmental.
If you’re looking to feel happy and confident again, don't hesitate. It is worth every penny."Â
Dianne G,
Alberta, Canada
Thriving, happy women know how to create a life they want.
And they accept nothing less.
They Don't Stay Stuck in old Patterns that don't Serve them. They question where the Pattern came from. Then they do the work to break the pattern and move on with elevating their life.Â
They take Radical Responsibility for their own Happiness. They know they can change their relationship patterns even if their partner isn't on board. In fact...
Can I tell you a secret?
You may be worried that your partner won't join you on the journey you are about to embark on. Guess what?
That is EXACTLY why it is going to be a success!
If you have been to couples therapy, you already know your partner's participation does not help. #hardtruth. The reason so few couples report positive progress with traditional therapy is that the hurtful and toxic patterns you are trying to break make it more difficult to uncover the real reasons behind the problems.Â
And without that, how do you even know what it is that you are trying to change?Â
Many women are trying to change the symptoms of the problems without getting to the root cause.Â
Truth Bomb: You Cannot "Act" Your Way to a Happy Relationship
But that’s EXACTLY what most women who are struggling in their relationship are trying to do.
Does this sound familiar?Â
...You spend hours and even thousands of dollars in therapy only to feel like you are back at square one as soon as someone is triggered or a conflict arises.Â
...You set your mind to "just let things go" and end up feeling resentful and frustrated as you ruminate and have conversations in your head. It feels like there is no point to bringing stuff up because it never seems to make any difference.Â
...You have begged your partner to work on himself, but even if things get better for a short time, it always reverts back to the same problems.
...You don't trust your partner anymore. Perhaps because of a serious betrayal. Or maybe it's a series of smaller betrayals of the heart. But either way, I'm sure you would agree there is no way to "act" your way into trust again.Â
Unhealthy relationships come down to one thing, and one thing only...

...Your default relationship patterns entangled with your partner's relationship patterns.
And since your unique patterns can only exist if you both participate in them, when you take Radical Responsibility for how you show up for yourself...
...your patterns change.
And the more your patterns change, the more you release default programming and old belief systems that are keeping you stuck, the more the patterns between you and your partner change as well.Â
This is how you become a magnet for being treated WELL.
And at the end of the day, whether you decide to stay in this relationship or release it and move on, if you don't have your own patterns figured out, there is a high likelihood that you will experience similar problems in the future.
But Figuring Things Out on Your Own is Hasn't Worked So Far.
It should seem like a pretty
straightforward solution, right?
Figure out the belief systems that have caused you to show up the way you do so you can show up differently and get different results. Easy peasy, right?
Unfortunately...no.
Because it is one thing to realize you have default programming that guides your behaviour, it is another thing to:
Uncover your own unique hidden beliefs that have lead you to unhealthy relationship patterns. You don't know what you don't know. They are your blind spots!
But with help, they can be uncovered. And then...
Once you realize a false lesson and belief system that has been guiding you in the wrong direction, you learn how to release the belief and replacing it with new, empowering beliefs is where the true transformation occurs...
This is when you will see yourself step into the Thriving State where you feel confident, calm and happier.
And I will help you make that transformation.
I waited almost 60 years to feel this good and it is just the beginning!
I don’t feel helpless anymore. I deserve joy. Calls hit on topics that I didn’t even know that I needed to hear. I’m excited for the journey that I’m on and I know that this will be here for me as I stumble and fall and continue to pick myself up and move forward for myself.Â
The sooner you start, the faster you can get to the life that's waiting for you.
There’s very few people that I trust and tell my truth to, and I honestly feel like Shari is an angel sent from heaven to help me.
Lavonne Fountain
Oregon, USA.
The good news is that you can uncover your default relationship programming before it derails you any further... You just need a different approach and more support.
Introducing
Relationships BY DESIGN Isn’t a “Relationship Course" or a "Therapy" Like Others You May Have Taken or Looked at.
...IT’S A COMPLETE TRANSFORMATIONAL PROCESS that will change you...
from a stressed out, overwhelmed, unappreciated woman...
...To the Happy, Thriving Woman You, and the People You Love, Deserve!
Relationships By Design is a comprehensive program that teaches transformational relationship strategies to women who want to elevate their life to the next level.Â
Relationships by Design uses a proven approach that transforms your mindset, shifts your energy and heals your nervous system.
- Whether you're already separated after 30 years of marriage and not sure what comes next, or
- Struggling with unhealthy conflict patterns, or
- Feeling disconnected and just not "in love" anymore, or
- Realizing you have lost yourself in the relationship...
Relationships By Design will empower you, teach you how to show up differently for yourself and reveal the secrets to creating a relationship and a life that you are happy to wake up to.Â
You'll understand exactly how you got here so that you can shift your energy and truly address the root causes and transform your life.Â
It is a step by step proven system to release what has been holding you back so you can realize your full potential for love, happiness and the support you deserve.Â
It's Time.
You Are Ready.
We are in the best place we have been in over 10 years!
I was seriously considering leaving the marriage as trying to talk about our problems always ended in an argument. Things might change for a week or so and quickly return to how they were or worse. We were both very unhappy.
It has been an 18 month journey but we are in the best place we have been in over 10 years.Â
Lisa Jones
Ontario, CA.
You Just Commit to You...
And I'll Do The Rest.
It's that simple!
Relationships By Design is created specifically to move you forward in transforming your relationship and your life.Â
You have been constructing your relationship all along, you have just been using the wrong tools.
Until Now.
These classes changed me in all the best ways.Â
Ultimately, my relationship ended, and that was a good thing. Thanks to what I learned from Shari, I felt confident and secure moving forward.
My decision making has improved and it has led to really positive changes in my confidence.Â
If you want to make sure you don't repeat old patterns, you have nothing to lose. You’ll benefit when it comes to your relationship but also when it comes to money. It was huge for me.Â
Best investment I ever made.Â
Becca Hanley, Texas, USA
Figure out your Relationship and Become the Thriving, Confident Woman You Deserve To Be!
Relationships By Design gives you everything you need to completely transform your relationship and your life. You’ll be ready to move forward with total confidence.Â
Go from stressed out and defeated to confident and happy…
I created Relationships By Design to be the most transformative, easiest way for you to go from stressed out, defeated and overwhelmed to thriving, confident and happy with the life you wake up to everyday.
But I also created it to be a supportive community that helps you stay accountable to your goals and your progress. So that’s why Relationships By Design also includes 2 live group coaching calls with me each month.Â
Got a question? Doubts? Uncertainties? Something – anything – not making sense?Â
We have a ton of laughs, it gets real and you have all your questions answered.Â
I’VE GOT YOU COVERED.
The RBD Members-Only Community
Real Women in a
Real & Supportive Community
If you're like me, then you know that figuring out your future can be lonely... you may have already discovered that talking to your friends and family can be a double-edged sword. Sometimes you don't want to share too much for fear that they will turn against your partner. And other times you might sense that their opinion is biased. It is easy to wonder what the right decision is and how much stock to put into the advice from those closest to you.Â
That never happens again once you join
Relationships by Design.
You surround yourself with women who know what you are going through and give you the honest and high-vibe advice you need to keep your positive momentum going.
OK, HOW MUCH IS MY INVESTMENT?
Relationships By Design may not be cheap, but it shows you how to get the results you desire in your relationship and when it comes to creating the prosperity and abundance you are after. It’s not a $18-a-month app or a $280 one-and-done therapy session.
It’s a investment in yourself that pays huge dividends in your future and your family's future.
One that will pay you back for the rest of your life.
Relationships By Design teaches you how to create the life you want. You will find your confidence and move forward knowing you are headed in the right direction.
It’s a transformation that frees you from feeling powerless and emotionally exhausted, stressed out and struggling. And lets you become great a creating the relationship you really want to be in. You will truly change how you teach people how to treat you.
And when you weigh all that against the investment and what it will do for you and your future, then it's an easy choice.
And because I'm committed to making Relationships By Design as accessible as possible to women who are ready to make the changes they can to shift the way they approach relationships and change the generational patterns for their children...Â
My husband and I are back on track and I am feeling the love again!
With Shari, I learned so much about working on myself and taking care of me.Â
I didn't think I was going to like the group calls, but they turned out to be beneficial as you learn you are not alone out there, there is others going through similar or way worse issues. Â
It was a process, but my husband and I are back on track and I am feeling the love again.
Shari is easy-going, loving and understanding.Â
Just do this. You won't regret it!Â
Tamara Bridal
British Columbia, Ca.
So, Let’s Recap!
When you join Relationships By Design you get a FULL YEAR of access to the transformational lessons and tools that transform you from stressed out, living in Survival Mode in your Relationship into the Confident, Clear, Thriving Woman who knows her worth and is treated with love and respect by her partner.
+Plus you get the ENTIRE Relationships Redone Bonus Package - 8 ADDITIONAL Sets of Life Changing Lessons AND PROCESSES to quick start your transformation NOW!
(Value: $3400)
+Twice-monthly LIVE Relationship Breakthrough All Access Group Coaching Sessions with Shari to answer your questions, clear up doubts, keep us connected, and help you stay motivated and on track.

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Still wondering if Relationships By Design is right for you?
Hear what RBDer, Susan has to say…
And if You Are Really Serious About Figuring Out Your Future, Now It’s Time for You to Make One of Two Choices...
The first choice is to choose to do nothing. And as you already know, if you choose nothing... then nothing changes.
BUT, if you want to make walk into the next few months without the stress, conflict and overwhelm that you've been living with, then your choice is obvious: join me inside Relationship By Design and start your transformation to knowing exactly how to show up for yourself so you become the thriving, happy, confident woman you know you want to be.
Simply click the button below and my team & I will be waiting for you inside!
Change requires a different approach.
And that is what you'll learn inside Relationships By Design.Â
Here’s the Truth:
You have to ask yourself this one vital question that will determine whether your relationship patterns are going to change or not:
“Am I going to take Radical Responsibility for my own life?”
Am I willing to accept responsibility for where I'm at and for where I am going?
You know that you’re not where you want to be today, and you now recognize that you have a chance to change it.Â
IT'S FINALLY YOUR TURN...
Ready to Step into the thriving, Abundant, confident woman who knows how to create a relationship she loves?
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