Starting with how you show up for yourself.
Relationships By Design is the 12-week program and community for women who are ready to stop reacting to their relationship and start designing it.
Whether you are struggling in a difficult relationship or simply wanting to develop the relationship skills you need to create a new relationship, you will learn the secrets to creating a relationship where you are cherished by your partner.
Laughing with your partner over something small. Asking for what you need without feeling nervous, needing to justify it, or worrying it will start an argument. Waking up feeling supported, safe and happy.
Thatâs what becomes possible when you learn the skills that create a great relationship. What most women donât realize is that those skills donât stay at home. They change how you lead, how you parent, how you handle money, how your body feels, and how much you trust yourself in every area of your life.
Picture a regular Tuesday in the relationship youâve always wanted:
This isnât a fantasy reserved for lucky women. Itâs what a relationship feels like when youâre operating from the exact Relationship Skills the women inside Relationships By Design know. And itâs learnable.
Maybe the same conflicts keep coming back, no matter how many times you âlet it go.â Maybe you feel like roommates, talking mostly about kids, schedules and bills. Maybe youâre wondering whether to stay or go, and every option feels hard.
This means youâve been running on default programming: patterns you learned long before this relationship, doing exactly what they were designed to do. Patterns can be redesigned.
Hereâs the good news: you can transform these patterns, and once you do, youâll wonder why nobody taught you this sooner.
And the honest truth: if you could have shifted this on your own, you already would have. You donât need to try harder. You need a different approach.
Best Selling Author of When Marriage Needs a Miracle and creator of Relationships By Design.Â
I know what itâs like to try everything to be a good partner, to communicate clearly, to be understood, and still feel unseen.
I know what itâs like to be cheated on, taken for granted and unappreciated. And quite frankly, I got to the point where I had to decide I was no longer available for anything but the life and the love that I know I deserve.
So I set out to learn what women in great relationships do differently. I focused on the one thing I could truly control: how I showed up.
And when I learned the skills of women in happy relationships, everything changed. Iâm living proof that this works, and so are the hundreds of women Iâve worked with.
Default programming has you reacting to what you get instead of creating what you want. New programming has you stepping into the version of you who is treated well, cherished and adored.
How your partner shows up for you follows how you show up for you. When you shift, your relationship shifts.
Every time. No exceptions.
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I was stuck in frustration and feeling defeated in my 10 year marriage.
Working with Shari helped me realize that changing how I show up REALLY does make a big difference in how my partner treats me.
Iâve set better boundaries within my relationship. Small changes really do have big impacts, and Iâve rediscovered my joy and self-worth in ways I didnât think were possible.
Shariâs program helped me see how much control you really do have over your situation. Sheâs personable, a great listener, and has a fantastic sense of humor that makes the journey feel approachable and non-judgmental.
If youâre looking to feel happy and confident again, donât hesitate. It is worth every penny.
â Dianne G, Alberta, Canada
You may be worried your partner wonât come on this journey with you. Thatâs exactly why it works.
Every relationship pattern takes two people to keep it going. When you change your side of the dance, the dance changes. You stop trying to fix the symptoms (another talk, another promise, another round of âletting it goâ) and start shifting the root.
Couples therapy can only go so far when the patterns underneath havenât been uncovered. Thatâs the work we do here, and it doesnât require anyoneâs permission but yours.
You canât white-knuckle your way into trust, closeness or feeling cherished. They come from a new state of being, and thatâs what Relationships By Design helps you step into.
And whether you choose to stay or move forward, these are your patterns to keep or release. Shift them now, and you wonât carry them into your future.
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I donât feel helpless anymore. I deserve joy. Calls hit on topics that I didnât even know that I needed to hear. Iâm excited for the journey that Iâm on and I know that this will be here for me as I stumble and fall and continue to pick myself up and move forward for myself.
Thereâs very few people that I trust and tell my truth to, and I honestly feel like Shari is an angel sent from heaven to help me.
â Lavonne Fountain, Oregon, USA
The skills you learn in Relationships By Design donât stay in your relationship. They ripple into every corner of your life.
Staying calm in a hard moment. Repairing after a tough conversation. Asking clearly for what you need. Trusting yourself. These arenât just relationship skills. Theyâre life skills, and your relationship is where you master them.
Your career
The skills that transform a relationship are the same ones that get you promoted. You stay grounded in tense meetings, repair quickly after disagreements, and ask for what you want with confidence.
Good Relationship Skills make you more confident professionally.
Your money
Couples who can talk about money without blame build wealth together. When you feel confident about yourself, you make decisions about your money differently and finally start building toward the future you want.
Good Relationship Skills make you good with money.
Your children
Your relationship is your childrenâs first model of love. When they watch you and your partner repair after a disagreement, they learn that love can be trusted. You change the pattern for the next generation.
Good Relationship Skills are modelled by your children - no matter what age they are.
Your self-worth
When you learn to ask for what you need without guilt, you rebuild the belief that your needs matter everywhere: at work, with family, with yourself.
Good Relationship Skills make you raise your standards and expectations. Life reflects that back to you.
Your decisions
When you trust yourself at home, you stop second-guessing every choice. Big decisions feel clear. Small ones feel easy.
Good Relationship Skills make you trust yourself.
Your time and energy
No more hours replaying arguments, walking on eggshells or wondering where you stand. All of that energy comes back to you, for your dreams, your home, your joy.
Good Relationship Skills mean your relationship ADDS to your life, instead of taking from it.
Your peace
When your relationship is a safe place to land, the rest of lifeâs storms feel smaller. This is the real prize.
Relationships By Design takes you from stressed, unappreciated and overwhelmed to the happy, thriving woman you, and the people you love, deserve. It transforms your mindset, shifts your energy and makes you clear about how to approach your relationship.
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When you sign up now, you get LIFETIME access, so you can revisit any lesson whenever you need it. This means you also get access to all new bonuses and additions added at any time.
You can also join a call whenever you need it. FOR LIFE.Â
Bonus ⌠Value: $3,400
8 additional sets of life-changing lessons and processes to jump-start your transformation right away.
New bonus ⌠Value: $497
A bonus program where you discover how to apply the laws of manifestation to your relationship, so you become a magnet for being cherished and treated well. This is a game-changer whether you are in a relationship or wanting a new one.
Value: $3,000
Got a question? A doubt? Something that isnât clicking yet? Bring it to our live Relationship Breakthrough calls. We laugh a lot, we get real, and you leave with clarity and momentum. Iâve got you covered.
Priceless
Figuring out your future can feel lonely. Friends and family love you, but their advice can come with bias, and sometimes you hold back so they donât turn against your partner.
Inside Relationships By Design, youâre surrounded by women who get it. They cheer your wins, give you honest, high-vibe encouragement, and help you keep your momentum going.
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With Shari, I learned so much about working on myself and taking care of me.
I didnât think I was going to like the group calls, but they turned out to be beneficial as you learn you are not alone out there, there is others going through similar or way worse issues.
It was a process, but my husband and I are back on track and I am feeling the love again.
Shari is easy-going, loving and understanding.
Just do this. You wonât regret it!
â Tamara Bridal, British Columbia, Canada
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I was seriously considering leaving the marriage as trying to talk about our problems always ended in an argument. Things might change for a week or so and quickly return to how they were or worse. We were both very unhappy.
It has been an 18 month journey but we are in the best place we have been in over 10 years.
â Lisa Jones, Ontario, Canada
When you join Relationships By Design, you get:
Total value: $9,874
This isnât an $15-a-month app or a single $280 therapy session. Itâs an investment that ripples into your relationship, your career, your finances, your health and your childrenâs future, and it pays you back for the rest of your life.
Total value: $9,874 â Your investment today: $2,777 or 6 payments of $497
One payment ⌠Best value
6 monthly payments
And it's guaranteed.
7-day, no-questions-asked refund if itâs just not your vibe.
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These classes changed me in all the best ways.
Ultimately, my relationship ended, and that was a good thing. Thanks to what I learned from Shari, I felt confident and secure moving forward.
My decision making has improved and it has led to really positive changes in my confidence.
If you want to make sure you donât repeat old patterns, you have nothing to lose. Youâll benefit when it comes to your relationship but also when it comes to money. It was huge for me.
Best investment I ever made.
â Becca Hanley, Texas, USA
They donât need to. This program is designed for you. When you change how you show up, the patterns between you change too.
Yes. Whether you reconcile or move on, understanding your patterns means you wonât carry them into your next chapter.
Like anything, what you put in is what you get out. The nice thing is, you gain access to the program immediately and you can do it at your own pace.
No. Relationships By Design is a coaching program focused on mindset, energy and practical relationship skills. It can work alongside therapy if youâre already seeing someone, but most women find therapy is not necessary when they join Relationships By Design.
We want to make sure Relationships By Design is full of like-minded women who are working to make their lives and their relationship skills better. If you join and decide itâs just not your vibe, simply let us know within 7 days and we will provide a full refund, no questions asked.
You have two choices. You can keep doing what youâve been doing and hope something shifts. Or you can choose to design the relationship, and the life, that is really meant for you.
Picture yourself a few months from now: calmer, clearer, laughing more, and trusting yourself again. Feeling cherished at home, and carrying that confidence into everything else you do.
All it takes is one decision: to take radical responsibility for your own happiness. You commit to you, and Iâll guide you the rest of the way.
My team and I will be waiting for you inside.
