The Clarity Lab

The Clarity-First System that shifts you out of survival mode and reconnects you with your calm, confident self so you can move forward with no regrets.

If you feel alone, unsupported, unappreciated and unsure about how to move forward to create a life you love - you need The Clarity Lab.

Sign me up!

You care deeply about your relationship — but it’s been hard for a while.

There’s a disconnection you can’t seem to fix.
Different versions of the same conflicts repeat over and over again.
You feel like you are carrying the emotional weight of everything alone.

Some days you wonder how you got here.
Other days you just know something has to change — you just don’t know how to make that happen.

And you now understand what it means when you hear women say, “I’ve lost myself”

You’ve probably asked yourself the question,
“Why can’t I get this figured out?”

You’re ready to do what it takes to figure it out and to move forward with calm, confidence, and truth.

You care deeply about your relationship — but it’s been hard for a while.

There’s a disconnection you can’t seem to fix.
Different versions of the same conflicts repeat over and over again.
You feel like you are carrying the emotional weight of everything alone.

Some days you wonder how you got here.
Other days you just know something has to change — you just don’t know how to make that happen.

And you now understand what it means when you hear women say, “I’ve lost myself”

You’ve probably asked yourself the question,
“Why can’t I get this figured out?”

You’re ready to do what it takes to figure it out and to move forward with calm, confidence, and truth.

Why what used to work doesn’t work anymore…

When most of us imagined what our relationships would look like, we thought there would be partnership — shared effort, mutual care, and support.

But somewhere along the way, it started to feel uneven.

For decades, women have been told that love means sacrifice, patience, and understanding — even when it costs their peace.

That conditioning turned into feeling responsible for everything —managing emotions, holding things together, keeping the peace.

And when that became too heavy, the next wave of advice came:
“set better boundaries”, “say this instead of that”, “communicate differently”.

And if you’ve tried any of that, you know it doesn't work for long.
It was all “acting” — and it creates more hurt, distance and frustration when it doesn’t work.

That kind of surface change doesn’t touch the deeper issue —because it’s not just about words or rules.

It’s about energy.

Women who thrive in their relationships — and in every area of their lives —do so because they’re tuned into their own inner guidance system, and how they show up for themselves and others reflects that.

Instead of living in survival mode, they move through life with confidence.
They listen to what feels true, make decisions from clarity instead of fear, and create relationships that feel steady, supportive, and safe.

The Clarity Lab helps you reconnect to your own inner guidance system, so you can stop reacting to everything around you and start creating a life that feels good to you.

The Clarity Lab Is About You.

It’s a space where you get to focus on yourself —
This might be the first place you’ve ever been where you can honestly figure out why things are this way in your life. And while that’s just the start, it is the part that is missing in SO much of what you read, or view on social media.

The Clarity Lab is where you will discover what got you here and what will truly work for YOU so that your life starts to feel like yours again.

When you begin to see clearly — what drains you, what fulfills you, what you actually want —
you stop living in reaction and start creating on purpose.

This is where you begin to build a future that feels steady, peaceful, and bright.

I know what it feels like to be stuck between staying and leaving.

For years, I tried to “fix” my relationship by focusing on the problems we had.

I read every relationship book, tried every communication strategy, went to therapy, and still felt like I was walking on eggshells.

What finally changed everything wasn’t more effort — it was clarity.

A kind of clarity I didn’t know I was missing.

When I understood the deeper patterns — the energetic agreements running beneath the surface — how my own internal state was shaping my life – I stopped reacting from fear and started showing up in my life in a way that didn’t always say “me first”, but it did say, “Me too.”

Now I teach women the same process inside The Clarity Lab —

a monthly space designed to help you reconnect to yourself, shift your energy, and see your next steps clearly.

A simple, repeatable Framework you can apply to any challenge: The C.I.R.C.L System

The 5-step process that will change you and your relationship patterns inside The Clarity Lab

Step 1:Get Clear— See what’s actually running your relationship: mentally, emotionally and spiritually. These are the invisible agreements you do not realize you have signed. And until you write new ones, the patterns keep repeating. But first, you need to see them clearly.

This is not like a typical approach you would learn in therapy. Instead of one-size-fits-all, it is specifically designed to help you understand your unique situation in a whole new way.

Step 2: Interrupt the Pattern — Most people try to create change in their life by just trying something different. But when the energy you bring to a new effort is still the same, the results are the same. You will learn how to change the way you feel, let go of old resentments and bring a new confidence to how you approach things. Anything that comes from survival mode will only create more reasons to be in survival mode.

Step 3: Reset + Redesign— You are going to create new energetic agreements that reflect the woman who thrives. You design your life with joy, certainty and self trust. This takes only minutes a day and helps change the momentum from heavy and stressful to light, peaceful and optimistic.

Step 4: Create it — Bringing your new energy into real-life moments takes practice: how you respond to your partner and your family, how you open the bills, how you see yourself in the mirror - and how you carry yourself through the day. When the pattern looks different, others can’t respond to you the same way anymore. You change the energetic script, and then things change.

Step 5: Love it— Love is the frequency that locks in the changes you want to see. Appreciate what’s working, notice the ease returning, and celebrate the woman you’re becoming. From this grounded, confident place, trust rebuilds on its own. Joy feels available again. And life starts to reflect the peace and power you’ve deserved all along.

Im IN!

What is

The Clarity Lab?

When you join, you’ll get immediate access to the full C.I.R.C.L System, and each month we’ll explore a new theme to help you apply it to the situations in your real life.

Every month includes:

Monthly Clarity Deep Dive with Shari Kubinec – a new workshop released each month that will keep you on track with creating more of what you want in your life.

New Tools for taking you out of survival mode – Each month, new tools and practices added — guided processes to stop the spiral of stress and bring you back to your center - meditations, sound baths, somatic resets... all designed to help heal your heart and get you back on track.

For December, this will help you with a daily release of the emotional charge that builds up during the holidays and resets your vibration to calm, grounded, and open — so connection feels easy again.

Monthly Q & A Session – This is not some set it and forget it “app”. Each month you can join me for a live session, ask me anything and make sure you are on the right track with your growth and making the changes you need.

FREE Access to paid online events: As a member of The Clarity Lab you also receive FREE access to paid online events such as Vision and Vibe happening December 30th. If a vision board and an energy reset workshop had a baby, this would be it! This workshop will be $77 - but FREE for all members of The Clarity Lab.

Private Community Access – Connect with other women walking the same path towards peace and power.

I want IN!

Is The Clarity Lab Right for You?

It’s for you if:

You’re a woman who has struggled in your relationship and you are ready to create something different for yourself moving forward.
Whether you are married, separated, or divorced this will give you the tools you need to show up for differently for yourself and navigate the challenges you are facing with confidence.
You’re ready to stop living in survival mode and get the peace and ease back into your life.
You’re open to exploring your energy, emotions, mindset and beliefs as tools for change.
You want to feel calm, confident, and clear about what’s next for you.
You are ok with topics that include spiritual, scientific, and even some whoo whoo perspectives.

It’s not for you if:

✖️You’re waiting for someone else to change before you do.

✖️You want over-night results, aren’t willing to show up differently for yourself, or just want a place to vent about your partner.

✖️ You want surface-level communication tips.

✖️ You want to hold tightly to the victim card, or argue for your limitations. Sorry, we don’t do that here.

If this is speaking to you, you already know — this is your next step.

Join The Clarity Lab Now!

If you keep doing what you are doing, here is what is ahead:

Another year feeling paralyzed by lack of certainty around the way forward.
More of the same stress, conflict, worries that have plagued you this past year.
New versions of the same problems with no solutions in sight.

But if you join now you’ll:

Stop the patterns of conflict and tension.
Step out of stress and survival mode and find daily peace, happiness and ease in your life.
Reconnect with your inner guidance, intuition and confidence while you move forward with creating a life you love.

What Women Have said about working with Shari:

“For the first time in years, I feel calm instead of panicked.” — Rachel

“I stopped trying to fix him and started focusing on me — and everything changed.” — Erin

“I finally made a decision from peace, not fear.” — Miranda

Clarity changes everything.

You don’t need to keep analyzing your relationship — you need to see it clearly.

I want IN!

The Clarity Lab

The Clarity-First System that shifts you out of survival mode and reconnects you with your calm, confident self so you can move forward with no regrets.

If you feel alone, unsupported, unappreciated and unsure about how to move forward to create a life you love - you need The Clarity Lab.

You care deeply about your relationship — but it’s been hard for a while.

There’s a disconnection you can’t seem to fix.Different versions of the same conflicts repeat over and over again.You feel like you are carrying the emotional weight of everything alone.

Some days you wonder how you got here.Other days you just know something has to change — you just don’t know how to make that happen.

And you now understand what it means when you hear women say, “I’ve lost myself”

You’ve probably asked yourself the question, “Why can’t I get this figured out?”

You’re ready to do what it takes to figure it out and to move forward with calm, confidence, and truth.

You care deeply about your relationship — but it’s been hard for a while.

There’s a disconnection you can’t seem to fix.Different versions of the same conflicts repeat over and over again.You feel like you are carrying the emotional weight of everything alone.

Some days you wonder how you got here.Other days you just know something has to change — you just don’t know how to make that happen.

And you now understand what it means when you hear women say, “I’ve lost myself”

You’ve probably asked yourself the question, “Why can’t I get this figured out?”

You’re ready to do what it takes to figure it out and to move forward with calm, confidence, and truth.

Why what used to work doesn’t work anymore…

When most of us imagined what our relationships would look like, we thought there would be partnership — shared effort, mutual care, and support.

But somewhere along the way, it started to feel uneven.

For decades, women have been told that love means sacrifice, patience, and understanding — even when it costs their peace.

That conditioning turned into feeling responsible for everything —managing emotions, holding things together, keeping the peace.

And when that became too heavy, the next wave of advice came:“set better boundaries”, “say this instead of that”, “communicate differently”.

And if you’ve tried any of that, you know it doesn't work for long.It was all “acting” — and it creates more hurt, distance and frustration when it doesn’t work.

That kind of surface change doesn’t touch the deeper issue —because it’s not just about words or rules.

It’s about energy.

Women who thrive in their relationships — and in every area of their lives —do so because they’re tuned into their own inner guidance system, and how they show up for themselves and others reflects that.

Instead of living in survival mode, they move through life with confidence.They listen to what feels true, make decisions from clarity instead of fear, and create relationships that feel steady, supportive, and safe.

The Clarity Lab helps you reconnect to your own inner guidance system, so you can stop reacting to everything around you and start creating a life that feels good to you.

The Clarity Lab Is About You.

It’s a space where you get to focus on yourself —This might be the first place you’ve ever been where you can honestly figure out why things are this way in your life. And while that’s just the start, it is the part that is missing in SO much of what you read, or view on social media.

The Clarity Lab is where you will discover what got you here and what will truly work for YOU so that your life starts to feel like yours again.

When you begin to see clearly — what drains you, what fulfills you, what you actually want —you stop living in reaction and start creating on purpose.

This is where you begin to build a future that feels steady, peaceful, and bright.

I know what it feels like to be stuck between staying and leaving.

For years, I tried to “fix” my relationship by focusing on the problems we had.

I read every relationship book, tried every communication strategy, went to therapy, and still felt like I was walking on eggshells.

What finally changed everything wasn’t more effort — it was clarity.

A kind of clarity I didn’t know I was missing.

When I understood the deeper patterns — the energetic agreements running beneath the surface — how my own internal state was shaping my life – I stopped reacting from fear and started showing up in my life in a way that didn’t always say “me first”, but it did say, “Me too.”

Now I teach women the same process inside The Clarity Lab —

a monthly space designed to help you reconnect to yourself, shift your energy, and see your next steps clearly.

A simple, repeatable Framework you can apply to any challenge: The C.I.R.C.L System

The 5-step process that will change you and your relationship patterns inside The Clarity Lab

Step 1:Get Clear— See what’s actually running your relationship: mentally, emotionally and spiritually. These are the invisible agreements you do not realize you have signed. And until you write new ones, the patterns keep repeating. But first, you need to see them clearly.

This is not like a typical approach you would learn in therapy. Instead of one-size-fits-all, it is specifically designed to help you understand your unique situation in a whole new way.

Step 3: Reset + Redesign— You are going to create new energetic agreements that reflect the woman who thrives. You design your life with joy, certainty and self trust. This takes only minutes a day and helps change the momentum from heavy and stressful to light, peaceful and optimistic.

What is

The Clarity Lab?

Every month includes:

Is The Clarity Lab Right for You?

It’s for you if:

You’re a woman who has struggled in your relationship and you are ready to create something different for yourself moving forward.

Whether you are married, separated, or divorced this will give you the tools you need to show up for differently for yourself and navigate the challenges you are facing with confidence.

You’re ready to stop living in survival mode and get the peace and ease back into your life.

You’re open to exploring your energy, emotions, mindset and beliefs as tools for change.

You want to feel calm, confident, and clear about what’s next for you.

You are ok with topics that include spiritual, scientific, and even some whoo whoo perspectives.

It’s not for you if:

✖️You’re waiting for someone else to change before you do.

✖️You want over-night results, aren’t willing to show up differently for yourself, or just want a place to vent about your partner.

✖️ You want surface-level communication tips.

✖️ You want to hold tightly to the victim card, or argue for your limitations. Sorry, we don’t do that here.

If this is speaking to you, you already know — this is your next step.

If you keep doing what you are doing, here is what is ahead:

Another year feeling paralyzed by lack of certainty around the way forward.

More of the same stress, conflict, worries that have plagued you this past year.

New versions of the same problems with no solutions in sight.

But if you join now you’ll:

Stop the patterns of conflict and tension.

Step out of stress and survival mode and find daily peace, happiness and ease in your life.

Reconnect with your inner guidance, intuition and confidence while you move forward with creating a life you love.

What Women Have said about working with Shari:

“For the first time in years, I feel calm instead of panicked.” — Rachel

“I stopped trying to fix him and started focusing on me — and everything changed.” — Erin

“I finally made a decision from peace, not fear.” — Miranda

Clarity changes everything.

You don’t need to keep analyzing your relationship — you need to see it clearly.

Join Our Free Trial

There’s a disconnection you can’t seem to fix.
Different versions of the same conflicts repeat over and over again.
You feel like you are carrying the emotional weight of everything alone.

Some days you wonder how you got here.
Other days you just know something has to change — you just don’t know how to make that happen.

You’ve probably asked yourself the question,
“Why can’t I get this figured out?”

There’s a disconnection you can’t seem to fix.
Different versions of the same conflicts repeat over and over again.
You feel like you are carrying the emotional weight of everything alone.

Some days you wonder how you got here.
Other days you just know something has to change — you just don’t know how to make that happen.

You’ve probably asked yourself the question,
“Why can’t I get this figured out?”

And when that became too heavy, the next wave of advice came:
“set better boundaries”, “say this instead of that”, “communicate differently”.

And if you’ve tried any of that, you know it doesn't work for long.
It was all “acting” — and it creates more hurt, distance and frustration when it doesn’t work.

Instead of living in survival mode, they move through life with confidence.
They listen to what feels true, make decisions from clarity instead of fear, and create relationships that feel steady, supportive, and safe.

It’s a space where you get to focus on yourself —
This might be the first place you’ve ever been where you can honestly figure out why things are this way in your life. And while that’s just the start, it is the part that is missing in SO much of what you read, or view on social media.

When you begin to see clearly — what drains you, what fulfills you, what you actually want —
you stop living in reaction and start creating on purpose.